Pulling Back The Shades
The Fifty Shades of Grey series has done for women and erotica what the advent of the Internet did for men and porn: fuel the craze and normalize its use. With erotica sales soaring and a big-screen version of the grey phenomenon in production, clinical psychologist and best-selling author Dr. Juli Slattery partners with relationship expert and best-selling author Dannah Gresh to unveil the ugly truths of erotica in Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman’s Heart (Moody Publishers, March 2013).
“We have met with women who started reading erotica to awaken their sex lives with their husbands, but it actually caused them to be less satisfied in their marriage bed than ever,” writes Gresh. “Single women have told us they used porn as a ‘sexual outlet until marriage’ but it suffocated their desire to pursue a relationship at all…what seemed innocent to them ended up being harmful.”
Dr. Slattery and Gresh examine erotica from a spiritual and sexual standpoint, providing Biblical teaching, personal stories and testimonies from those affected by erotica to help women navigate this uncharted territory and discover how to embrace their sexuality and spirituality. And where does “mommy porn” fall on the map?
“I believe this genre of literature and Fifty Shades of Grey specifically are very spiritual books with an aggressive spiritual agenda,” writes Dr. Slattery. “The books take you on a journey that has a spiritual impact and an intended spiritual destination: destruction.”
“We know women aren’t just drawn into books like Fifty Shades of Grey for the entertainment value,” writes Dr. Slattery. “We’ve found that women who turned to erotica are looking to satisfy one of five key longings. Too many women have been tricked into believing that an erotic book or online relationship can fulfill their deep needs. It’s time to expose that trap and reveal a way that leads to life,” writes Gresh.
Written in the authors’ two distinct voices, Pulling Back the Shades helps readers identify what they’re really longing for when drawn to erotica, why they can’t put it down, and what God says about our sexual desires. While the Bible is clear on topics such as adultery and incest, Slattery and Gresh point out where even God is “grey” on sexual matters.
Dannah Gresh is the cofounder of Pure Freedom, and a bestselling author of several books, including And the Bride Wore White, What Are You Waiting For: The One Thing No One Ever Tells You About Sex, and Lies Young Women Believe, co-authored with Nancy Leigh DeMoss, in addition to the Secret Keeper Series. She is a frequent guest for national radio, TV and print mediums. Dannah and her husband Bob live in State College, Penn.
Dr. Juli Slattery is a widely known clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and broadcast media professional. Her commitment to biblical principles, relatable style, and quick wit have made her a highly sought after speaker to women’s groups. Slattery’s books include Passion Pursuit, Finding the Hero in Your Husband, No More Headaches, and Guilt Free Motherhood. She and her husband Mike have been married for 18 years and have three children.